Yoruba Traditional Wedding Engagement List – Eru Iyawo

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The Yoruba Traditional Wedding Engagement list is presented to the groom’s family from the bride’s family some weeks prior to the traditional wedding day. The gift items asked for on the list (known as Eru Iyawo in Yoruba) are packaged and presented to the family of the bride on the traditional wedding day. The engagement list items below are not set in stone, although some like the Bible/Quoran, bitter kola, and are a must.

The items on the engagement list will differ based on what part of Yorubaland the bride’s family is from and your family may decide to ask for more or less items. The groom’s family can also haggle to reduce the number of items. The engagement list is drafted by the bride’s family members and unfortunately the bride has no say as to what is requested.

Yoruba Engagement List (Eru Iyawo List)

42 Bitter kolas (Orogbo)
42 Tubers of yam (Isu)
42 Kolanuts (Obi abata)
42 Chilli/Alligator Peppers (Atare)
42 pieces of dried Fish (Eja Osan)
1 Dish of peppered corn  meal (Aadun)
1 Pack of Sugar
2 Baskets of Fruit
2 Decanters filled with honey
4 Crates of canned or bottled soft drinks
4 Crates malt soft drinks
4 Cartons of bottled water
2 Bottles of non alcoholic wine
2 Cartons of fruit juice
1 Bag of salt
1 Bag of rice
1 Umbrella
1 Goat
1 Keg of palmwine
1 Keg of groundnut oil
1 Big suitcase containing clothes, shoes and hand bags including aso-oke fabric, 2 sets of lace with gele and 2 sets of ankara
1 Wrist watch, Earrings and Chains
Biscuits and Sweets
Engagement rings for bride and groom
Bible(for Christians)
Quran, praying mat, praying kettle, rosary, white hijab, veil and tasbir (for Muslim weddings)

 Money /Fees
Owo Ori (The Bride Price) – Varies
Owo Ijoko Agba (Money for the elders consent) – N,1000
Owo Baba Gbo (Money for the bride’s father’s consent) – N,1000
Owo Iya Gbo (Money for the bride’s mother’s consent) – N1,000
Owo Ikanlekun(Door knocking fee) – N1000
Owo Isiju Iyawo (Fee for unveiling the bride) – N1,000
Owo Aeroplane (Bride transportation fee) – N1,000
Owo Iyawo Ile (Money for the Housewives) -N500
Owo Omo Ile (Money for the Children of the household) – N500
Owo letter kika (Letter reading fee)-N500
Owo Telephone (Fee to call the bride out) – N500
Owo Isigba (Engagement gifts unveiling fee) – N500
Owo Alaga Ijoko (Master of Ceremonies fee) – N500

The money is collected at different points during the traditional wedding ceremony, while the gift items are arranged at the venue before the ceremony starts. Gifts are usually packaged in baskets or boxes, which are coordinated to match the wedding colour scheme or wedding theme.

Here are pictures of some packaged engagement gifts at yoruba traditional weddings.

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Photo by Four23 Photography

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Engagement Gift Packaging by I Do Weddings Nigeria

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Engagement Gift Packaging by Eru Iyawo

*Images courtesy of  Eru Iyawo and I Do Weddings Nigeria. Head over to their pages for more inspiration.

So have you ever gotten involved in creating the engagement list or buying the engagement gifts? Do share your experiences with us in the comment section below. 

About Sayo C.

Sayo is the Editor of Wedding Feferity. She is very passionate about improving the way Nigerian Weddings are planned and celebrating our wonderful culture.

Comments

  1. Oluwaseyi says:

    Oh my God! God bless you. A lot of research has gone into this piece and this is simply wonderful! And helpful too. Let me start saving up then :)

  2. SHEHU SALAMI says:

    bravo bravO, am planning and preparing to do my wedding by God grace. Amen

  3. This is quite helpful. Keep up the good work

  4. Oni Emmanuel says:

    Thx so much, you have done great by uploading such an information. More greese to your elbow.

  5. Keep up the good work. Will be quite helpful.

  6. Brittany says:

    This information is great! I just wanted to know if there was one more thing that is “must have” for the list. You said the Bible and the kola nut but I didn’t know if there was one more thing since theres an “and” after that.

    • Hi Brittany.
      Most families provide the items listed above, some just give less or more than the quantities stipulated.

  7. thanks! this is helpful

  8. adunbarin savage says:

    by His grace I will be getting married in march

  9. funmi oniyide says:

    hi, i jst wnt to ask abt eru iyawo d 1st introduction dat d groom’s parent will bring along for der 1st visit.

    • Hi Funmi…This varies from one family to the next. Money isn’t usually involved, but a few things like food products and drinks is the norm.

  10. Mr Akolawole Josh says:

    Please what of me that want’s to marry a calabar girl, how do I get the list for both engagement and introduction? Please be of helppin:29A310FF +2348033247299 for whatssap

    • Hi Mr Akolawole….The challenge with lists for other non-yoruba cultures is just how greatly they vary from one town/city/village/family/household to the next. I will try to hunt one down and you can use it to guide you bearing in mind that what you may receive may vary greatly.

  11. ADENIJI KOREDE says:

    pls I need introduction list

    • Hello Adeniji, as I said above to Funmi, this varies from one family to the next. Money isn’t usually involved, but a few things like food products and drinks is the norm.

  12. Yetunde says:

    Thank you very much for all the helpful tips and information. Keep up the good work.

  13. Adio Bolanle says:

    I am so much excited for this piece of information pls keep d flag flying.

  14. Thanks a lot,this is help full. Pls I need your help in choosing wedding colour is pepper red and blue a good match.

  15. Sayo you are tooooo much!!God bless you!keep it up!

  16. Zandile Khanyile says:

    Good day
    I’m from SA and my Nigerian Yoruba fiancee and I plan to marry here inSA..but we want to go to his family soon for the introduction and family blessings before we say I do…I would like to know please if I need to bring any gidfts as a bride to be and what would those gifts be.
    Thnk you in advance

    • Sayo C. says:

      Hi Zandile, as the bride, you do not need to take any gifts. The Nigerian tradition requires the groom and his family to visit the bride and her family for the formal introduction ceremony. As you are South African, whatever tradition your tribe demands is what will hold.

      Having said that, there is no harm in taking some gifts just as a kind gesture. I think taking some nice South African gifts would be a nice way to introduce them to your culture. South African fabric and foods maybe? Otherwise, you can stick to standard Nigerian fruits and drinks. You can’t wrong with those.

  17. Tibe Ewolabi says:

    Tiri Bosa!!! to Sayo,you’re my inspiration..l

  18. Eunice Idowu says:

    Great!!! am proud of you

  19. Nike Korode says:

    Wow,Sayo,thanks for this write up.Now i know all what my parents will collect from my fiancee.
    @Zandile,you can bring any gift apart from the one listed above.You can give them fruits,can drinks and anyother things you like.

    • Sayo C. says:

      Hi Nike, Thanks for chipping in. @Zandile, Nike is right, nothing is set in stone for introductions. Just basic things like fruits, drinks, palm wine (if the bride is from the east) and anything else you wish to give.

  20. this is a nice job

  21. Comfy says:

    Good job,Sayo.

    I’v been enlightened.

  22. fisayo says:

    nice job keep it up this is so helpful

  23. You did such a good work! I’m not Nigerian but I’m gonna marry one and this article is the must! Very helpful!

  24. yemisi says:

    Thanks for d list, wat of if we want u to get d list and decorate it cos it a small wedding which is palour wedding.

  25. I read it out to my mom and she said ‘perfect’. You nailed it!

  26. Thanks. Very useful

  27. mutiu olaide says:

    Good job

  28. oguns smart says:

    GOOD JOB PLEASE KEEP IT UP

  29. oguns smart says:

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  31. hello ma,i really appreciate what i see and make me happy for your gesture help,God will always bless you and add more knowledge to your elbow.Ma,am still a bachelor that plan to get marry next year but i want to plan with the money i have with me which is 500,000 naira for engagement and wedding.Can you help me out with it? pls call me on this line 08165639169.

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